January 3rd 2015

Day four of the official Road Trip.

Had the best New Years we could have ever imagined. Also managed to off-load one of the four children. Steph is staying on Paihia with her BFF and her amazing family. Steve and I are very fond of them and approve whole-heartedly of their parenting. They use humour, laughter, and lots of Love and respect. It is the humour thing that got and keeps us on board for sure though.  She’s having a great time and my friend Ginell and I are a little jealous even, as she gets to see dolphins and hang out with some genuinely fabulous people while we drive for hours and hours every day for the next couple of weeks.

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I won’t complain though! It has been a hugely successful (and exhausting) journey so far, and the footage we are gathering is going to splice into the most perfect clip imaginable. And I adore the people we are traveling with.

Cape Reinga was awe-inspiring.

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I was lucky enough to talk briefly to local Iwi there. The man that ran the last camp before Cape Reinga was receptive and lovely, although quite busy so we never did manage to get him away from his desk for a test drive. Maori have an undeniably strong connection with the land, and nature. I’ve always also seen a sense of family and community that is admirable, and all of these things gave a synergy with the cleaner, fairer and more independent New Zealand we’d like to see. I’d like to work more closely with connections we have, and meet more thought and community leaders in the Pacific and Maori communities.

This trip has definitely ignited a desire to get more people involved in this movement, and to get more people thinking seriously about the issues.

I am no activist. I know that due to the fact I’ve met quite a few social and environmental activists in my travels with this trip and generally. I am a loud, caring, open and enthusiastic wife, mother and member of this planet. All of this work started simply with my own selfish desire to assuage my middle-class guilt. Now it is so much more. I’ve made friends and seen changes in people’s perceptions and behaviours that I believe will be long lasting and do a world of good.

I miss my best friend and business partner Rebekah every single moment on this trip. Not only because she is a million times better at organizing and logistics than I am, but because doing this stuff is more fun when I have her to share it with.

Luckily, the people we are working, traveling with, and meeting along the way are amazing, funny, engaging, interesting and diverse.

I am having a brilliant time, but already looking forward to a period of hibernation for a couple of weeks when we return.

Missing all the people we have been neglecting lately, particularly sneep and P who we wanted to see and missed completely over the holiday period.

Thanks everyone for your support.

We’ll be checking in regularly, and remember to like our facebook page for information on how we are tracking and where we are going to park up for public viewings next.

Tomorrow we are hoping to be allowed on Eat Street in Rotorua, and if that fails, we will be heading to the lake front.


How to avoid being “That Guy” online – Extensive personal research conducted over several years I have to say!

We all have our own list of pet peeves with Social Media. There are plenty of articles explaining what really miffs us off about social media.  Here is a list of articles on the subject to save you the trouble of googling it yourself:



I need to take a moment to say that I consider myself qualified to remark on these, because I have almost certainly been guilty of all of these at some time and to varying degrees.

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In the early days of Facebook I’d hop online after one or two tooooo many wines.

Anyway, I’d like you to benefit from the wisdom of mine and others’ mistakes.

Here are just a few of the social media faux pas that we all ought to be mindful of:

The Painfully Proud Parent
Truth is, most people like hearing about kids antics, and seeing cute pictures of our friends’ young families growing up. ONCE IN A WHILE!

– Trademarks:

  •  Seriously spamming everyone with paintings or pictures your precious kids drew, stories of their potty training antics, ten thousand photos of them rolling over for the first time or eating an ice cream… You get the idea.
  • Baby talking ON YOUR status updates. Seriously, I find this quite remarkable, seriously, do these people not have spell check? Cause spell check would not like that one bit.
  • Publishing every minor milestone. There are times that many milestones are reached in close succession, and if you find yourself posting updates about your precious bundle more than a dozen times a day, you may want to rethink your strategy.


  • Keep your content light
  • Don’t post too often
  • Put up one or two pictures of your precious bundle looking angelic,
    instead of 20 or 30
  • Poop pictures are out completely
  • Actually, any photos taken in the bathroom are probably best avoided.
  • Have a special page for everything kid related for friends and family to subscribe to if they choose
  • Find other proud parent groups and forums to post to your hearts content on! These places are great and you can find like minded individuals and EVEN SHARE POOP PICTURES!

Serial Relationship guy

The VAST majority of these guys (who are probably more often actually girls) are teens, tweens, and recently single men and women. I’ve been guilty of changing my own status to “it’s complicated” and then flew off to San Francisco without my husband for a couple of weeks some years back now. So anyone can fall prey to being this guy.

– Trademarks

  • Changes relationship status monthly or even weekly
  • Complains bitterly about ex and 24 hours later singing the praises of “The one, NO REALLY! This is the ONE! I think we’re going to get MARRIED!”


  • Just don’t
  • A relationship is private and special when it is starting out, so try and keep it on the down-low until you’ve moved in together at least maybe?

The Oversharer or TMI guy

We have all been guilty of this. Whether it is because we have too much time on our hands or we feel a little bit needy,  we have all turned to social media, looking for validation and interaction and perhaps given far too much away.


  • Posting about EVERYTHING that happens – from breakfast to bowel movements.
  • Posting photos of injuries, mysterious rashes, every new purchase… you get the idea.
  • Spam spam, wonderful spam. Posting more than 10 times a day is simply not okay. Tweeting, no problem, but probably a bit too much for Facebook.


  • Find private groups to share your enthusiasm in. I belong to a pregnant ladies private group with a few dozen women, and we spam each other incessantly and over-share about fears, bodily functions, and can post as many belly shots and photos of our baby scans as we want. Know your audience, and try and keep the personal stuff out of the completely exposed public forum.
  • Think: Would I be okay with my kids and/or grandparents to see this post? If the answer is no, maybe don’t put it up.

Next instalment

  • – The Purveyor of Politics or Soap Box Guy
  • – The MEGA Motivator
  • – Food Porn Perv
  • – Eeyore
  • – Chain Letter Spammer
  • – Warnings and Fear Mongering Sharer (this guy doesn’t check snopes.com)

Written by one of the Social Soup Directors ( We will not divulge which one)