This blog has eclipsed my non-sweary blog: deehobbit.com. There's a lot of shady and difficult shit I feel the need to share, and this is the place I share it. Life isn't a highlights reel. Life is painful, and chaotic, and full of changes, disappointments and sometimes it is full of joy and magic. This is where I go to vent. I make no apologies for the grittiness of the content.
I’ve just been reading a few of the harrowing and heart breaking real-life mental health crises the activist and advocate Mike King has been sharing on social and traditional media. It highlights that we are a nation faced with a genuine epidemic, and I have so much respect for all those who share their stories. … More Reflection and Protection
Years of chaos, confusion, hustle and high flying have taken their toll on many people. The global pandemic put the breaks on in a huge and abrupt way for millions of us. It brought some industries to their knees, and others were given the opportunity to emerge. Zoom shares skyrocketed, online sales figures shot through … More Call of the Countryside – Te Aroha
Looking for more leaves so much behind We break our brains just hoping to find Something truly worth feeling Not transactional dealing In you are the answers to the questions you’ve asked Yet we attended schools in the hopes that we’ve passed The measure and bell curve What we want or… deserve… Joy is a … More Monday Poem
There was a post that flashed by my feed on Instagram a few weeks ago. A beautiful young woman with empty eyes on the left, and the same face with soulful kind eyes on the right. Apparently nearly 20 years had passed between pictures but the soulful eyed woman did not appear much older if … More How Now
Etymology doesn’t have much to do with what I wanted to talk to you about. I’m here to check in with you. See how you are. So many of us have had cause, pause, and necessity to re-examine and re-think so many things this year. I’m genuinely curious about where your thinking has led you, … More Another Think Coming
The 10th of September is world suicide prevention day. Triggered? I suspect I am not the only person who has been, so I will do what I do and speak to this demon publicly, because if I stare it in the eye it can’t devour me. I am confronted by the entrance of another dark … More Triggered
I did not want a partner. The joys of juggling suitors in the short stint of singledom was a giddy rollercoaster. I adore being adored. And there’s no shortage of adoration available to a hurricane who was willing to endure a few less than stellar matches in order to taste the magic of some incredible moments. While … More One Year In
Spending time with my teenagers and their friends is a fundamental part of life for me while I am wrapped up safely in my bubble as the world outside struggles and changes beyond comprehension. We road trip, and I ferry the kids around for social activities such as mini golf, laser tag or … More Kids These Days
For the last decade it has been unthinkable that I could or would be more than a few short weeks without boarding a plane for work or play. This Jetset life ended abruptly in March 2020, when I, along with around 5 million other Kiwis, became securely (and in my case gratefully) grounded here until … More A Very Beautiful Backyard
Our youngest son turned 6 yesterday. His father and I have spent most of his life unravelling strings that tied us together as a couple and fortifying a newfound friendship. Poor wee James was the most difficult of all four pregnancies, yet he was hands down the happiest, easiest, most cheerful baby imaginable. He was … More Safe at Home
