Daniel Son is 10 Today… Some snapshots of the journey so far

Today our eldest son turns 10.

He is kind, he is clever, he is sensitive, he is sarcastic, he is sweet, he is sometimes anxious and very deep indeed.

We have had an amazing journey over the past ten years getting to know this fine young man, and are looking forward to seeing what the future holds for him.

Here’s a whole bunch of old photos…

Daniel the day he was born

Daniel the day he was born

Daniel with Daddy at work

Daniel with Daddy at work

Hobbit Feet

Hobbit Feet

Me the day I got induced

Me the day I got induced

Daniel and Melanie

Daniel and Melanie

California cousins on Halloween

California cousins on Halloween

Road trip from Vancouver to Los Angeles

Road trip from Vancouver to Los Angeles

Meeting some of the ladies at Rane in Mukilteo

Meeting some of the ladies at Rane in Mukilteo

Kai and Jess (Rick and Debbie's beautiful dogs)

Kai and Jess (Rick and Debbie’s beautiful dogs)

Meeting his Godmother in Victoria

Meeting his Godmother in Victoria

Steph adores him

Steph adores him

Daniel and Steph

Daniel and Steph

Helicopter ride

Helicopter ride

Talking on the phone to Granny

Talking on the phone to Granny

Protective Big Bro

Protective Big Bro

At Hyde Park in London

At Hyde Park in London

With Auntie Fleur at Pop's funeral

With Auntie Fleur at Pop’s funeral

At night in Rarotonga

At night in Rarotonga

Barcelona

Barcelona

Barcelona

Barcelona

Making steph laugh on the cruise

Making steph laugh on the cruise

At the Melbourne aquarium

At the Melbourne aquarium

With Daniel at Glenfield Mall

With Daniel at Glenfield Mall

With Aidan in Thames

With Aidan in Thames

Winter Onesies

Winter Onesies

Three cute cuddly kiddies

Three cute cuddly kiddies

Dinner with Patrick in California

Dinner with Patrick in California

Flying Business class like a boss

Flying Business class like a boss

With his siblings at Auckland Zoo

With his siblings at Auckland Zoo

An elephant in Asia

An elephant in Asia

PJ party on the cruise to Beijing

PJ party on the cruise to Beijing

Feeding Adam

Feeding Adam

Getting ready for the purple princess party

Getting ready for the purple princess party

Emo boy going to school

Emo boy going to school

In the hospital on a drip for an infection

In the hospital on a drip for an infection

Getting to know Adam

Getting to know Adam

At Matakana where the house will be built

At Matakana where the house will be built

With Auntie Emma

With Auntie Emma

With Auntie Sarah

With Auntie Sarah

With Uncle Darcy

With Uncle Darcy

With Aunty Kathy

With Aunty Kathy

With Auntie Amanda

With Auntie Amanda

With Buddy

With Buddy

With Franklin

With Franklin

Saying goodbye to Jule

Saying goodbye to Jule

With Uncle Chris

With Uncle Chris

With Zach at the beach

With Zach at the beachDa

Tonight I showered you

My dear friend Kyrin writes such beautiful and raw truth. Very brave and beautiful woman to let us share her journey.

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Tonight you needed to shower. Your nurse hadn’t come this morning and you needed to shower.

I got you undressed and left you to shower on your own.

Usually you can and it is fine, a few minutes later you were back in your room getting dressed.

I told you to stop, I could of been gentler. I took your hand and got you in the shower.

I got the shower puff and put soap on it. You stood under the water as I washed your front and back.

You leant forward and wet your hair, I added shampoo and massaged your head.

You rinsed the shampoo out, and I added conditioner.

When I said turn, you turned.

You were capable of having a shower, but just needed a bit of extra help.

I turned the water off and gave you your towel. It made me smile because I remember…

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I Know What Causes Autism

This woman is amazing, and took so very many words out of my mouth.

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Last week I was surfing the Internet and came across a headline proclaiming autism and circumcision are linked. I couldn’t help myself. I laughed out loud.

In no certain order, I have read the following explanations for autism over the years:

Autism is caused by mercury.

Autism is caused by lead.

Autism begins with poor maternal bonding.

Certain pesticides may trigger autism.

Plastics.

Gluten aggravates autism spectrum disorder.

People with autism should eat more strawberries.

Too much automotive exhaust is a leading cause of autism.

Chemicals found on non-stick cookware may trigger autism.

The one about maternal bonding is sort of painful for me. The truth is, I did have a hard time bonding with infant Jack. The little guy shrieked and whined and cried for a solid year. He started sleeping through the night at six weeks, and stopped at three months.

I was exhausted, and Joe and I were…

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Obscenely Positive Review of Invercargill by Dee “the Happy Hobbit” West

So I like roses. And trees. And water features. And ducklings. I really like seeing people outside with their families and hearing their children giggle and seeing them enjoy fresh air and down time.

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This combination of things that I really like culminated in a great wave of wonderful on a hot day in early January when I stumbled across Queens park in New Zealand’s Southern-most city.

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Invercargill, or Invergiggle as it is sometimes known, has a population of just over 50,000 residents. There must be 50,000 residents to be considered a city, so this gorgeous wee settlement just sneaks in over the wire.

I have also always had a soft spot for the underdog.  Invercargill is the brunt of more than a few jokes here in NZ, and as I talked and posted about the fabulous time I was having there, many people seemed confounded or disagreed.

We had the opportunity to see dozens of towns and cities from the top to the bottom of New Zealand, but Invercargill stands out as a truly sweet and lovely place and I am excited to go back again the same time next  year.

We stayed at the Victoria Station Hotel. It is one of the oldest buildings in the city and oozes with character. Our hosts were gracious, funny, kind, and above all exceptionally interesting. They told us the story of the building and its many previous owners and incarnations. Unfortunately they did not have a cool ghost story for me regarding the hotel. Ah well. Can’t have it all I suppose.

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We met with representatives from the Invercargill Vegan Society who were fresh faced, healthy and enthusiastic about our electric cars. We had a strong common bond in our concern for sustainability (social and environmental). They are better at walking the talk than I am, but that is kind of a common theme with almost everyone I met. I talk a lot more than I walk apparently. Sigh.

Where was I?

Oh yes.

How I fell deeply and eternally in Love with this quaint and beautiful little city.

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While Grumpy was parked up showing the cars to people, Ginell and I took the time to go exploring the park. We opted to stay there and enjoy some time with James in the park while the team went down to Bluff to do their scheduled photo-shoot.

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Queens Park is veiled in a bit of magic. It is quite perfectly planned, marvelously manicured, inarguably interesting, and most importantly pleasantly populated by polite people.

I proper loved it!

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I also found out that the reason that the Invercargill has such amazing facilities and infrastructure is partly owing to some very old legislation that does not allow profit through the sale of alcohol, rather, all of the revenue generated from the sale of booze must be returned to the community. Or something like that… At any rate, it is a hard working, hard playing kind of place and there is a tuition free polytech that attracts people young and old there to study, so suffice to say, a bit of revenue gets generated as people blow off steam after study or slogging it out at work.

Ginell and I took our friend Nick out for some drinks and contributed to this kitty. We had a great night, and laughed until our ribs and cheeks hurt. Only had 4 or so drinks each, so it was a responsible but fantastic evening.

In summary.

If you have not been to Invercargill, put it on your bucket list. It is a lovely place filled with lovely people. If you end up there for work or just passing through (as we did) consider yourself lucky, and jump into this quaint and quirky little city with both feet.

Thanks for reading.

XXOO

We’re Taking These Cars to Invercargill! (After a much needed rest)

You know that tired you get when you’ve been on the road, or kept up by a newborn most of the night, or working to an important deadline for days or even weeks on end?

Yeah, we are feeling that brand of tired.

Arrived home to a spotlessly clean house. The gardens are lush and beautiful and will be bursting with produce soon. Our house sitter is amazing and we’d be honoured to have her back any time! Today I must make time to go and replenish our pantry and fridge.

And once all this domestic stuff is done…

Official planning for next year’s event begins.

Next year, around the same time as we went from Cape to Bluff, we’d like to have an EV rally that follows more or less the same route as the iconic Kiwi Film Goodbye Pork Pie.

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People will be able to join the convoy for one or more parts of the journey and we have already secured a little bit of funding for prizes and promotion.

I’ve been watching and listening to the film in the background while writing this blog and checking my emails. Amazing how much has changed, and also how much has not.

So, if you have taken the time to read this, and you live in NZ and would like to help out with or participate in any part of the rally we’re planning, drop me a line and I’ll put you on the mailing list.

If our trip this year is indication, it will be a fabulously fun time, with the added bonus of continuing the important social, economic and environmental message that #LeadingTheCharge is sharing with all of the New Zealand.

Charging – We want to encourage private and public entities to roll out practical charging infrastructure all through New Zealand. The ultimate goal is a robust network that will allow even a short-range commuter vehicle like the Leaf to travel comfortably from the top of the North Island to the bottom of the South Island with charging access 24/7.

Driving – We want people to get into Electric Vehicles. Test-drives, car sharing, renting, owning. We don’t care how you do it; we just want people in these cars.

Teaching – There are so many untruths circulating about EV (electric vehicle) technology. We want to share true, well-researched and transparent messages about EV and all the benefits of EV ownership for individuals and New Zealand as a whole.

We would also be honoured to see you and have you come and check out the cars and talk to some EV enthusiasts down at Aotea Square in the city on Sunday from 1-4 pm.  We can tell you a bit more about the planned rally next year, and we even have a cache of T-shirts that we held back to distribute at our home-coming event.

Hope to see you there!  Here is the link for the event on FaceBook:

https://www.facebook.com/events/810588999016574/

Thanks for reading, the blog will go back to family focussed as soon as things settle down back to “normal”

XXOO

Dee

The Magical Meeting of Kay

Always, always, A-L-W-A-Y-S be gracious, and if you can’t then at least be brief and kind.

However, I strongly feel that if you are gracious and genuinely interested in people, you give yourself a much better chance of meeting fascinating and wonderful humans that will teach you important and poignant lessons.

I have met and re-met some wonderful people while traveling around the country over the past few weeks.

The story I want to share briefly is about a slightly scruffy, bushy bearded, one-eyed man.

We are in Christchurch.

Steve and Nick went to a gathering at Duncan and Thea’s seriously sustainable and super fabulous house in Tai Tapu. This couple is gorgeous, and funny, and warm and really walking the talk of sustainability. It was humbling to see how much they do and realize how much more I could be doing.

I digress.

So at this point I am absolutely knackered, but I have to eat so I arranged to have everyone meet at the local pub for a quick bite so I could go to bed early after I unsuccessfully attempted to have a nap earlier in the day.

While we were waiting for our food to arrive, a little old man rocked up to the table.

He was in a stripy polo shirt and dress pants that you could tell had been worn in a workshop or whilst tinkering with engines or wood or something.

His hands were knobbly and he had whisps of silver hair on his head and a bushy salt and pepper beard.

He stopped when he saw the Tesla, as he’d been attempting to make it to the catch up at our friends’ farm earlier that day, but got quite lost.

I took him for a ride and he started to tell me a bit about himself.

He is a genius. A dottery, sweet, kind, eccentric, beautiful GENIUS!

He makes musical instruments, he was responsible for the NEEV truck (which was full electric and way ahead of its time), he has raised his own children and a number of adopted and fostered children as well.

He is kind, sweet, brilliant and delectably different.

So many people might have dismissed him if he had approached them and interrupted their dinner, and I am so unreservedly relieved I did not.

He joined us for a cup of tea and some pudding while we had our dinners. I chatted at length to him about his children, and foster children and his many instruments and inventions.

His name is Kay. And he is richer than most in experience, warmth and intellect.  He called it a “picture memory” for electronics and engineering.

Beyond his staggering smarts, I was blown away by his kindness. His warmth came through in his many stories. This man has lived so many lifetimes and touched so many people. He is not an eccentric millionaire type, he’s been broken down and reduced to the bare necessities of life time and again, yet he remains full of joy and positivity.
Taking him for a spin in the Tesla and having him join us for dinner left him buzzing. Meeting him left me humbled and gave me plenty of food for thought.

So the only thing I want to leave you with today is this:

Everyone has a story. You will be the one that benefits if you take the time to listen to someone who wants to tell you theirs.

I look very forward to being in touch with Kay and am so pleased he enjoyed his time with us last night, as we all very much enjoyed meeting him.

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Very Tired. Now at Day 10. Time to Reflect…

We’re tired. We are tired and we have started to argue. We are tired, we have started to argue, and I am dropping a lot of balls and letting people down as we traverse this beautiful country.



A rare moment of together time not fighting captured on camera

A rare moment of together time not fighting captured on camera

I called my mother while on the road from Christchurch to Oamaru where we are staying tonight. She asked if we were accomplishing what we set out to do. And after much careful deliberation, I decided that yes, yes we are doing what we set out to do.

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This road trip is the first public step in a journey of a thousand miles to bring electric vehicle (EV) uptake to a tipping point in New Zealand.

A picture of the fuel that will hopefully power our commuter fleet, made in NZ for NZ

A picture of the fuel that will hopefully power our commuter fleet, made in NZ for NZ

The whole reason for this trip was to dispel myths, talk to as many people as possible about EV and what it means for Kiwi households and our country in general. We also wanted to encourage interest and momentum for EV and green tech.

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As an added bonus, we are getting to hang out with a bunch of really cool people that we are very fond of. We are learning a lot from people as we go, and hopefully teaching others a thing or two as well.

So.

For those of you reading this that don’t know what we are up to, I’ll sum it up for you here:

Grumpy, myself, our friends Carl and Nick and my old friend Ginell, along with a magnificent motley crew of EV-angelists have joined forces to make a trip from Cape Reinga to Bluff possible over just less than three weeks.

We are gathering beautiful footage of the cars with epic New Zealand landscapes in the background.   We are talking to thought leaders, the public, and EV enthusiasts around the country about the fact that full electric vehicles are finally a real option for Kiwis.

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The barriers to EV ownership are being removed with great gusto. The reality of owning efficient, quiet, and easier to maintain commuter vehicles has finally arrived. We consider New Zealand to be the most beautiful country on earth, and we think that Kiwis as individuals, and New Zealand as a whole deserves cleaner, cheaper and better transport options, now and into the future.

EV ownership is becoming more achievable every year, with an entry-level vehicle costing as little as $20,000.00. The market will be filling up with more EVs that are New Zealand new, or imported from other places. The other end of the market includes amazing plug in EV from the likes of Tesla and BMW. These can set you back from around $100,000.00 NZD to over $250,000.00 NZD, depending on the options you go for.

But, having driven both the humble Leaf and the Tesla, I can honestly say, the Leaf is just fine and you will be madly in Love with it in no time, and appreciate it as much as any Tesla owner does their luxury car.

Also consider that an EV requires none of the standard servicing of an internal combustion engine (ICE) vehicle, and all you really need to worry about maintaining and replacing are tires and wind screen wipers, the basic economics stack up pretty quickly in favour of EV rather than ICE cars.

Add energy costs that come in at a fraction of petrol, and a cleaner, less smelly car to run and taking the plunge and owning an EV as a family or commuter vehicle becomes much more appealing.

Average Auckland commuters can essentially be driving a free car after about four or five years time if they buy a $20,000.00 ex-Japan market Nissan Leaf when you consider their cost savings on fuel and maintainance bills.

So.

What exactly is the message we want to share and amplify around NZ by doing this road trip?

Very simply, we want three things to happen now and into the future regarding EV tech:

  • Charging – We want to encourage private and public enterprise to roll out charging infrastructure all through New Zealand. Our ultimate goal is to have a network of charging facilities so advanced that the humble Nissan Leaf would be able to drive from Cape Reinga to Bluff, fast charging every 100km or so along the way.
  • Driving – We want people to get into Electric Vehicles. Test-drives, car sharing, renting, owning. We don’t care how you do it, we just want people in these cars.
  • Teaching – There are so many misunderstandings regarding EV tech. We want to spend the next couple of years sharing true, well-researched and transparent messages about EV and all the benefits there is for individual owners and New Zealand as a whole.

I feel better now that I have written that all down.

Check back in after I have tackled my back-log of press releases.

Thanks for tuning in.

XXOO

January 3rd 2015

Day four of the official Road Trip.

Had the best New Years we could have ever imagined. Also managed to off-load one of the four children. Steph is staying on Paihia with her BFF and her amazing family. Steve and I are very fond of them and approve whole-heartedly of their parenting. They use humour, laughter, and lots of Love and respect. It is the humour thing that got and keeps us on board for sure though.  She’s having a great time and my friend Ginell and I are a little jealous even, as she gets to see dolphins and hang out with some genuinely fabulous people while we drive for hours and hours every day for the next couple of weeks.

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I won’t complain though! It has been a hugely successful (and exhausting) journey so far, and the footage we are gathering is going to splice into the most perfect clip imaginable. And I adore the people we are traveling with.

Cape Reinga was awe-inspiring.


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I was lucky enough to talk briefly to local Iwi there. The man that ran the last camp before Cape Reinga was receptive and lovely, although quite busy so we never did manage to get him away from his desk for a test drive. Maori have an undeniably strong connection with the land, and nature. I’ve always also seen a sense of family and community that is admirable, and all of these things gave a synergy with the cleaner, fairer and more independent New Zealand we’d like to see. I’d like to work more closely with connections we have, and meet more thought and community leaders in the Pacific and Maori communities.

This trip has definitely ignited a desire to get more people involved in this movement, and to get more people thinking seriously about the issues.

I am no activist. I know that due to the fact I’ve met quite a few social and environmental activists in my travels with this trip and generally. I am a loud, caring, open and enthusiastic wife, mother and member of this planet. All of this work started simply with my own selfish desire to assuage my middle-class guilt. Now it is so much more. I’ve made friends and seen changes in people’s perceptions and behaviours that I believe will be long lasting and do a world of good.

I miss my best friend and business partner Rebekah every single moment on this trip. Not only because she is a million times better at organizing and logistics than I am, but because doing this stuff is more fun when I have her to share it with.

Luckily, the people we are working, traveling with, and meeting along the way are amazing, funny, engaging, interesting and diverse.

I am having a brilliant time, but already looking forward to a period of hibernation for a couple of weeks when we return.

Missing all the people we have been neglecting lately, particularly sneep and P who we wanted to see and missed completely over the holiday period.

Thanks everyone for your support.

We’ll be checking in regularly, and remember to like our facebook page for information on how we are tracking and where we are going to park up for public viewings next.

Tomorrow we are hoping to be allowed on Eat Street in Rotorua, and if that fails, we will be heading to the lake front.

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